Junkie... whoa that one really hurt!
It started with a song I heard on the radio yesterday, a song I used to sing to Al when he was little. It sent my emotions off. I can't help it. He's my SON.
I messaged two people I love, two people I trusted, two people in my family. I just typed what I was feeling at the moment, I was venting. The condescending messages that followed crush me. Out of all the words that where said the one that rang the loudest to me was the word “junkie”. I quote... "He's a junkie" It pierced my heart and left me wounded. I’m not sure I can recover from that one?!
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People are clueless when it comes to addiction, I was clueless until it happened to my son. I always thought that anyone who used heroin would be found in an alley until my eyes were opened.
I'm sorry you had to hear that and feel the hurt that comes from people's ignorance. I have to admit it again until it happened in my household I was as ignorant as the next person.
1. Words hurt, truly hurt!
2. Ignorance is truly bliss
3. Shame is normal for this type of illness... very few understand it, very few can withstand it.
4. Unconditional love does exist.
5. Somethings you say you can't take back.
Thanks everyone for your kind and caring comments. It helps... it really helps!
I'm the FIRST to admit before our family experience I knew exactly what a junkie was, how worthless a druggie life was to the all of us normal people. I knew that the only problem with druggies was they just needed to stop taking drugs, it was just that simple. It was all so simple and the answers were obvious. Plus we wouldn't have all these dopeheads if parents would have done their job parenting.
I was so dumb.
What does it take for most of us to learn? All it takes is a simple experience. We learn from experience, at least we all hope too. The trouble is most of us find it impossible to learn from experience we have never had.
Words hurt, I agree. Forgiveness eases the pain. Sometimes it is said to hurt but my experiences have been that people say what they say due to lack of knowledge and lack of experience.
For me, once I was able to forgive myself it became easier to forgive all of those that hurt me. Let go of blame and shame and others will see that love is the base of your being, not fear. With that they become more open to what they could learn by being your friend or relative instead of sitting high on their perch.
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Thank you!